It comes from this blog post.... Click me
We all have a reality, it is the expectation that is sold to us via many different channels and peer groups. It is all predicated on pressure to do well. Work neighbours family and friends all contribute in some way, some give us the feel good some add to the pressure.
The internet is devious, it cleverly knows what I have been 'aspiring to' and feeds me images and reminders of what I think I want to the point I start thinking I need them. Top notch subliminal marketing - not allowed on TV but everywhere on the internet.
Clever, it really is a mind altering experience.
Ironically it is the internet and its global availability that is selling the western dream to those aspirational people in less financially stable counties to come and 'achieve'. Economic migrant they are called.
I guess it is a real privilege of those that have seen their future, or arrived at it to know it is not all what it is sold to us to be. So we live on boats and downscale our lives to remove the pressures of what is sadly seen as success.
The real success is achieving happiness which is your reality if you can remove those expectations. Better still if those expectations are less than your reality you are living a positive experience?
Of course the internet is fill of blogs like the one in the link but every now and again one comes by that does make you challenge your thinking on life - well it does for me anyhow.
One final thought, slightly depressing and delivered to me by my recent raw experiences of supporting ageing loved ones into the final stages of their lives, it arrives sooner than you think, we all will take those last days weeks months or in some cases years of relative non existence to what we have lived in the time leading up to the final chapter, albeit however brief.
So the learning point, manage your expectations, they impact significantly on your reality which in the end is your happiness.